It is touching and I believe worthy of your list. FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 07, 2020: MG Singh emge from Singapore on July 06, 2020: Great collection but suicides and depression though real is not my cup of tea. The narrator questions whether he’s lost his sanity and even says he’s “Feeling like I’m headed for a breakdown.”, Still, he declares, “I’m not crazy, I’m just a little unwell.”. report. Answer: Your friend’s death was no more your fault, sweet friend, than if she had had a tragic car accident and hadn’t been wearing her seatbelt. There were some very low moments for me when I laid in misery with optic neuritis (an MS-related eye condition) in the dark, my blind eye pounding, feeling raw and electric. FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 03, 2020: Maskedmarlin - Please contact one of the crisis resources listed in this article who can help you. Answer: Although you don't indicate what chronic illness you have, I can identify with having a chronic illness that is lifelong, physically debilitating, unpredictable, and painful, as I've lived with multiple sclerosis for 15 years and migraines as well. It would be best if you could communicate your feelings directly to your mother, describing your feelings to her as vividly as you have to me above. Now desperate to preserve his life rather than destroy it, he pleads, "Somebody save me. Continue to work closely with your psychiatrist, clinical psychologist, and the rest of your care team, giving them timely feedback about what medications are working (or not) and how you can tell they’re not working. Sometimes no one can tell you anything that will change your mind – but maybe this song will. As the narrator explains: “I know the feeling/Of finding yourself stuck on the ledge/And there ain’t no healing/From cuttin’ yourself with the jagged edge.”. Ask them if they have a moment to listen to something that is troubling you. Keep trying. Everything isn’t bad but sometimes that’s how the world shows up for us. Take care of yourself. This song is probably one of the tamer ones. The song was released in 2006. Share. Make sure he or she knows that on a scale of 1-10 how you'd rate your pain and what your pain keeps you from doing on a daily basis (e.g., getting out of bed, climbing stairs, driving, picking up anything over 5 pounds). The Police’s “King Of Pain” is about all that and more. Other resources include the crisis numbers listed below. Suicidal Thoughts is a popular song by YUNGKIDDSHAWN | Create your own TikTok videos with the Suicidal Thoughts song and explore 0 videos made by new and popular creators. One may be surprised, however, that there often isn’t a lot of “talk” time with a psychiatrist. Two songs that are definitely missing from this list are Fingertips by Tapping the Vein & A Quitter by Rasputina. It isn’t understood at the level it could be as many people haven’t experienced what it’s like to be depressed. Depending on where you live, there may be a support group for survivors of suicide loss. Sit them down and say, "I need your help with something important, and if I don't get the help I need, I fear I won't be here next week." Remember, my smart young friend, that there are ALWAYS multiple options in life! But we shouldn’t cast judgment from either side – you can’t know what someone else is going through. That is the number of u.s. service men and women who take their own lives on a daily basis. If you are in crisis, I urge you to contact 911 immediately or one of the resources below: Question: I am 22 years old and have been through several episodes of deep depression. Billy Joel once attempted suicide, and he wrote this upbeat 1985 song for a teenage audience to remind them that it's okay to make mistakes. 4) Build yourself a safety net by removing firearms from your home and avoiding alcohol and drugs which could impair rational thinking. I don't know how to overcome this. I'm sorry your loss hasn't been validated. Important: If you’re feeling anxious, depressed or suicidal right now, we urge you to seek out professional help immediately. I was 15 years old when a male friend drove his truck out to the middle of nowhere one night and didn't come back. FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on December 07, 2019: LaustCawz - Thanks for the song suggestion. However, he offers that "sometimes I wish someone out there will find me." However, please know that we have ALL made serious mistakes, had lapses in judgment, hurt those we loved deeply, lied, betrayed, and broken trust of those we cared about. Depression is a manageable, treatable condition, and you don't have to suffer as you currently are. If you're struggling with depression or thoughts of suicide, stop and seek help now. Scaredy cat - Thank you for taking the time to leave me a comment. I attempted to suicide last year after my grandpa's passing. I would not suggest listening to it if you’re deeply depressed right now. FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 07, 2018: Joshua - Thanks for the song suggestion. Honestly, it might be the most direct and graphic song about suicide. White men 85 and older die by suicide at rates four times higher that of any other age group. It describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal. What person hasn't made a mistake, even a huge one? For all the dedicated followers of this post who might be interested and this is not an advertisement, the song is Ghost and the unknown band is Badflower. Plenty of black metal songs address feelings of isolation, loneliness, rage, and anger. My life has been really hard since then. Do this for yourself. If thoughts of suicide cross your mind because of the chronic pain, then let your doctor know because this is straight talk about how bad the pain is for you. What should I do, for me and for my friend? They NEED to know this. It may be motivated by the loss of friends and loved ones, pets and diminished autonomy and health. Rather than continuing to suffer from untreated depression and thoughts of suicide, you are doing the right thing in wanting to seek help. 610 Sports Radio. Their lyrics are rife with references to fighting, war, rebellion and so on. Thus, the deeper you fall, the more confused they feel about how to help. I've added it to the playlist. You never know. It’s about finding hope and holding onto it, even when it seems like there’s nothing to hope for. Answer: You don't include any information about what mistakes you've made or how you've hurt those you've loved. I still struggle with all of this on the daily. We need you here with us. You must protect yourself and ensure that you don’t repeat your friend’s tragedy. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/. Regardless, be brutally honest with your doctor about how desperate your pain is making you feel. I tell my friends and parents I'm fine, but I'm not. You will also need to work with a therapist regarding your psychological issues, including the sexual assault, grief over your grandfather’s death, and self-concept. Question: I want to die. Ultimately, people can pound you with negative messages, but it's what YOU TELL YOURSELF that matters. There is often shame, guilt that you could have somehow prevented their death, and a preoccupation with unanswered (and often unknowable) questions about why this happened. The world is a better place with you in it. If you have feelings of depression or thoughts of self-harm as well, also reveal those concerns. I appreciate you. You wouldn't hesitate to ask for help then, would you? I lost the love of my life because I couldn’t be honest. However, if you're feeling like this on a regular basis rather than short-term, you may have clinical depression or another treatable mental illness. (It may get worse before it gets better, but when they see they can't upset you, they will give up trying. I cut myself to keep going even though I know that’s bad. 2d. Each suicide intimately affects at least 6 other people such as immediate family members, relatives, neighbors, co-workers, friends, fellow students, health care providers, etc. You can do this. Some conditions, such as ADHD, depression, or anxiety can be managed very well with the introduction of an appropriate medicine. And, they’re not exactly trying to be supportive either, although they don’t want to see their friend suffer, as indicated by these lyrics: “What’ll it take to get it through to you precious/Over this, why do you wanna/Throw it away like this.”. Pin. I have been very close to being part of this staggering statistic. This can help you understand more about the devastating loss you have experienced. I'm going to reiterate the suicide prevention resources that were mentioned in the article. Feel free to share in the comments, add your suggestion, or message me. Oh WellFleetwood Mac "Oh Well," from their 1960s Peter Green era, is the only Fleetwood Mac song played in … However, these might not meet your needs because of one or more reasons: 1) they tend to concentrate on specific problems rather than therapy, 2) work under the direction of a psychologist or psychiatrist, or 3) focus less on serious mental health issues than everyday problems and decisions such as family and marital conflict or stress management.). I'm going to give you some crisis numbers below, but I also want you to generate a list of positive things about yourself. Enjoy! Tweet. I hope that anyone reading this who is considering suicide will STOP and call 911 or one of the crisis support lines listed in the article. FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 11, 2019: CracyGal4-1 - Thank you for this song suggestion. Those painkillers that you're sleeping with are not helping you, and I sense that you get that. I have added it to the list. You just haven't fully realized that yet. Ask your psychologist about helping you to develop a plan to strengthen and broaden your social support network, your contact with other people. It's quite possible that you have a biochemical imbalance. Great list, thank you. Whenever I try to get help my mom rolls her eyes and doesn't even care but when my brother asks for help she immediately takes him to a therapist and gets him meds and a psychiatrist. I never knew so many songs were there on this subject. Fourth, there's an organization, Survivors of Suicide Loss, that has some good online resources that I'd like for you to take a look at. tweet; ... March 30, 2020. Don’t keep this to yourself either. If they are Googling songs about suicide and suicide prevention, then I am happy that they have connected to this article that gives them not only the songs they seek but also crisis-related resources that they may need, either now or in a pinch. Answer: Grief doesn't have to be logical. FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 26, 2020: papadaddy - Thanks for the song suggestion. I hide in my garage, so i can stay away from my wife. There’s a fake out at the beginning when a teenager shoots himself in front of his parents. There's no "rewind" on a loved one's suicide; it has irrevocably changed who I am. 4) now, I mostly feel just sadness at all the good things they're missing. I get yelled at by my dad for becoming overly hyper. Better yet, make an appointment with your family doctor and tell him or her about your exercise plans so s/he can work with you on that. Last year I started isolating myself from other people as well as the things I loved to do. She laughed and asked how I drew such realistic ones. This song’s chorus couldn’t have said it better: “I have stood here before inside the pouring rain/With the world turning circles running ‘round my brain/I guess I’m always hoping that you’ll end this reign/But it’s my destiny to be the king of pain.”. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK or visit SuicidePreventionLifeline.org . That’s a different list, with far more options to choose from. That’s what this song is about, so if you’re feeling like you need to figure something out, have a listen to this tune. He validates that there may be difficult life challenges that seem monumental. This is very helpful, thank you very much. September is Suicide Prevention Month. Question: I've been down for a long time. The lyrics are honest, poignant and, at times, quite brutal. Your parents may not be survivors of suicide loss and may not understand you, but a mental health counselor is expert in doing so. I), metalcore (Pt.II), Fade to Black" is a song and the first power ballad by American heavy metal band Metallica, released as the first promotional single from its second studio album, Ride the Lightning. Is it wrong? Tell a school counselor, parent, teacher, coach, pastor/preacher, or another adult you trust about your own suicidal thoughts or intentions and those of your friends. He died by suicide, and a part of me went with him. https://www.musicindustryhowto.com/sad-songs-about-depression-suicide You are not a throwaway person, and your life is worth living. Not being skinny enough is NOT a reason to kill oneself, sweet girl. Remember, however, the words of Eleanor Roosevelt -- that no one can make you feel inferior without your permission. The pain sometimes feels unbearable. What if I’m Next? Please promise that you’ll love yourself enough to access the recommended resources, as necessary. I pray my sickness takes me, before i do. The narrator describes a friend coming to them saying they’re alright, but as he asserts: “But I know it’s a lie.”, He also offers this: “This is the last night/You’ll spend alone/Look me in the eyes/So I know you know/I’m everywhere/You want me to be.”. At this point, this song is a bit of a self-caricature. Broaden your friendship circle to include other positive influences -- people who are easy to talk to, people who make you laugh, etc. I'm sorry that you experience such frequent pain that it is interfering with your life and your happiness. Everybody experiences failure and difficulties at times, and just because you’ve gone through those things doesn’t mean it’s over for you. How can I get better without asking for help? Answer: It's likely that you are experiencing depression and thus need medical attention. I'm going to recommend three things. That, however, doesn't mean that we can't help each strive to change and be better people. Your counselor will help you to understand that truly you were NOT TO BLAME. Your life is worth living. Talk candidly to your family doctor or other health care provider ASAP about referring you immediately to a psychologist, psychiatrist, or another mental health professional in your area. Share how depressed you're feeling and be totally honest. FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on November 17, 2019: Emmanuel - Thanks for your comment. (I can attest that losing someone this way is deeply traumatic and forever life-changing.) The song was ranked as having the 24th best guitar solo ever by Guitar World readers. You said you made a mistake. Many people have felt this way at one point or another and that’s how depression can leave you feeling. This haunting 2003 country song illustrates that alcoholism plays a role in one-third of all completed suicides. Depending on the location and type of exercise, you may also meet new friends this way. Andrelton Simmons opted out of 2020 MLB season due to suicidal thoughts, depression. These lyrics are especially uplifting: “Sometimes everything is wrong/Now it’s time to sing along/When your day is night alone (hold on)/(Hold on) if you feel like letting go (hold on)/If you think you’ve had too much/Of this life/Well, hang on.”. Every suicide produces an average of six survivors of suicide loss, such as immediate family and other relatives, co-workers, friends, and others who cared for the departed person. The playlist is filled with songs that are life-affirming. It doesn’t mean it will be easy from then on. There is no more shame in this than having a physical illness, so do not let that stop you from seeking potentially life-saving treatment. I will add it, friend. Third, I recommend seeking support among others with your illness. When that happens, it's like a wound has been ripped back open. For the illness or disease that you have, there is likely an organization associated with it. She saw so many COVID-19 patients dying. . The gentle ballad is somewhat reminiscent of the 60s and even if you don’t have depression, you can easily relate to the cry of “And everybody hurts sometimes”. When we’re depressed, sometimes we just need someone to come alongside us, let us know they know how we feel, and to let us know it’s going to be okay. Write a note to your mother and sit there as she reads it if you cannot make the words come out. You can put them on repeat if you like what they have to offer. If you feel safe doing so, choose a time when Mom is relaxed and unrushed, and tell her you need to talk to her about something that is important to you. 69,271. Figure out with professional help what's worth keeping you here. Answer: No, you are absolutely not a lost cause at eighteen. Survivors are also at higher risk for considering suicide themselves. Your doctor may want to run some tests, and it's the perfect conversation segue for getting the name of a good therapist. I'm counting on you to do the right thing here, particularly since you love your parents so much. Please reach out to 911, a local emergency room, or one of the following resources for immediate life-saving assistance if you feel you may harm yourself. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support: Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: https://helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/... which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal. Unfortunately, I do understand. Im tired of not making a difference. Ask your psychiatrist about TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation), a therapy for treatment-resistant major depressive disorder. Question: I used to be suicidal, then I got help and felt a little better. How can I solve that? Answer: Depression is often an easily treatable condition, but you must bring it to your parents’ attention regardless of how uncomfortable this makes you feel. 3) Exercise releases endorphins (the body's natural narcotics) that will help boost your mood as well as help you keep fit. There are phone, text, and chat options. To me, this is very important -- which is why all of my pieces this month will have something to do with suicide prevention or mental illness/health. First, contact a pain management specialist as soon as possible by working through your doctor, if possible. Sometimes I think I see him walking or hear his voice. Talk about your feelings with your relatives, partner, and friends who will listen. It’s about realizing that you are stronger than anything that could be thrown at you, including depression. If you don't have someone you can talk to, reach out to one of the crisis intervention resources listed in this article. What happened: Jaden Hossler is opening up about life with depression and suicidal thoughts. I recommend that you talk this out with a professional counselor (e.g., therapist, psychologist) so that you can address the emotional issues of shame, your thoughts of suicide, your inability to be honest in relationships, and whatever else is going on. I also cut to reduce the pain – the pain of sexual assault, having gone into mental hospitals, my grandfather's death, etc. Turning your attention outward rather than inward can help you feel good about your contributions to others' well being and make you feel needed. The pain doesn't get better. Ask to see a mental health counselor for help in sorting out your lingering feelings of guilt, shame, sadness, anger, and abandonment. It is touching and I believe worthy of your list. This song may help you see all the people that care about you. You may not be able to see the other side right now, but firm ground is there and you can reach it. Please pursue what works for you while you seek professional help. It feels like the world wants to put me through heaps of pain in many ways. Now she's dead. It references the death by suicide of James Taylor's childhood friend, Suzanne Schnerr, as well as his struggle with drug addiction and depression and his reflections on fame. Doctors have an ethical responsibility to help control your pain, and if they cannot do it themselves they need to connect you with a pain management clinic or another healthcare provider who can help you manage your pain. Work on addressing your depression and any other issues you are struggling with by seeking help from a professional counselor or therapist. Question: My cousin died by suicide, and it has been difficult for me. Available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some... Don't write yourself off as a bad person unworthy of love and life. Sung from the perspective of someone who has been there, the narrator in this 2012 rock song expresses the urgency of turning away from the ledge of suicide. Additionally, you may choose a social worker, psychiatrist, or licensed mental health counselor. What's left for me to do? In the meantime, if you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. Yep, seriously. You have a lot going on in your life and need to be kind to yourself. A post shared by The New York Times Magazine (@nytmag) on Mar 12, 2020 at 6:21am PDT Mar 12, 2020 at 6:21am PDT "I was in a really bad place mentally," she said. I'm scared that one day my fear of death won't be enough to keep me alive. I feel trapped because of this. Perhaps write a paragraph about each: your friend who does the awkward celebrity impressions, your dog and his sloppy wet kisses, the way your mom sings off key to 5 Seconds of Summer and thinks she's nailing it, being an American, the smell of fresh cut grass, Chick-Fil-A -- whatever is important to you. This will be a process and you need to be patient with yourself. In addition, because you mentioned that your step-father is a "horrible man" and I don't exactly know how you mean that, I'm going to provide you with another resource: the National Child Abuse Hotline (1-800) 4-A-Child or (1-800) 422-4453, available 24/7. Keep your chin up and be true to yourself. Death by suicide runs deep in my family, across generations. Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: http://beta.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevent... which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal. 3) Tell your mother you need counseling and it's essential. We don’t endorse that here. Have a good Fourth of July. Again, I am concerned about you. You can also ask your family, friends, and family doctor for recommendations. Have a good weekend! The narrator in this 2007 song indicates that time has run out on him, and he is ready to leave this world behind. our partners use cookies to personalize your experience, to show you ads based on your interests, and for measurement and analytics purposes. Whether you want to or not, try to commit yourself to walking or another form of exercise. Unfortunately, many of us know what it’s like to be waiting for that call that never comes. Let's start counteracting the negative with some positive today. Your call is free and confidential. Bottom line is: start with your family doctor. It’s true – everybody hurts – you’re not alone. If you get in a bind, keep those crisis numbers in the above article handy. They have free downloadable suicide loss books for parents, teens, and children (3 different books) to help different audiences understand their grief. There may not be any comfort in painting it all black, but this tune will have you examine how you’re looking at your situation right now. Please consider it on your list. Although you've made attempts to share your feelings of distress, perhaps you haven't connected with the right people in the right way. This list includes people like Billie Joe Armstrong (Green Day), Johnny Cash, Eric Clapton, Kurt Cobain (Nirvana), Phil Collins, Eminem, Billie Eilish, Selena Gomez, Natalie Imbruglia, Paul McCartney (The Beatles) and many, many others. With love, FlourishAnyway. I'm scared of what people will do and say if they know I am hurting. Let your family doctor guide you. Oh WellFleetwood Mac "Oh Well," from their 1960s Peter Green era, is the only Fleetwood Mac song played in concert in every decade they've been extant. Answer: You don't want to feel like this, but you're worried about others' reactions, particularly your mom's. Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment. I go to sleep every night with a bottle of painkillers in my hand. I found an excellent one through my physician specialist (i.e., my neurologist). .again. You're worth it. Suicidal Thoughts is a popular song by YUNGKIDDSHAWN | Create your own TikTok videos with the Suicidal Thoughts song and explore 0 videos made by new and popular creators. However, the friend senses the lie and promises to be their lifeline: "I won't let you say goodbye. Now go make your playlist on your iPod. Do the right thing for yourself first, your friend second and get help. This thread is archived. Tell yourself you're going to discuss your decision with three people first to see what they think. 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